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Why You Should Look in the Mirror Before Judging Others

Why You Should Look in the Mirror Before Judging Others

One of the hardest things to do is to not judge other people. Looking back at yourself, it can be easy to see where others judge you based on appearances, the way you acted in certain circumstances, or the ways you were living your life. It can be painful to feel like others are judging you. Find some tips for how to assess yourself more effectively before you start placing judgement on other people.

Think Before Judging

Whether you are sober or struggling with addiction, you will face people from all walks of life. It is important to remember each person is different, unique, and despite everything is worthy of love and compassion. When a person is facing difficult tasks, even if they are easier for you, that should not be a reason to crush others under the weight of their own challenges.

Evaluate Thoughts and Character

When listening to someone’s story, it can be easier to sit and judge rather than listen. Being a good listener starts with hearing the other person, their motives, reasons, and thoughts behind what they say rather than judge. Even if you haven’t experienced exactly the same things, it helps to stop and focus on what they are experiencing, have compassion, and think about your overall purpose for being with this person in the first place. Perhaps they need a listening ear more than one that is judgemental.

Judge Not Lest Ye Be Judged

Addiction is one of the most misunderstood and misjudged issues. People who have never used alcohol or drugs do not understand the power of addiction. There’s judgement against those searching for love, life, money, and other things. People feel it is their right to sit on a throne of righteousness. Until a person has experienced a low, depressed, lonely, and painful time, there is no reason to judge. Think about the times you:

  • Felt sad, hopeless, or depressed
  • Felt like an emotion consumed you from head to toe, good or bad
  • Felt engulfed by a feeling that continues to consume your thoughts

Even if you don’t know what this is like, you can still hold judgement aside and ask the other person to explain how they feel in the moment. Perhaps all they need is someone to really listen openly and honestly. If a person is sad, hopeless, or lonely, they likely need you right that moment to notice it, and perhaps even off help if necessary. Don’t miss an open door to help a friend or loved one because you were too busy worrying about what they were or were not doing in that moment. Don’t try to fix, but assume that since you are there, you are there for a reason and can offer some help in the moment.

We all get into a space where we feel like we can make a real difference. If you are worried about a friend or loved one, there is help available for addiction. We provide support for detox and recovery. Let us help your loved one heal. Call us 24/7 at our toll-free number: 866-294-9401