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Why is “Help Me” So Hard to Say?

Why is “Help Me” So Hard to Say?

Sometimes saying ‘help me’ are the two hardest words to say. As we are raised to be so independent, we often think we don’t need other people and try to ‘go it alone.’ What you will discover as you make the journey of recovery is that not asking for help actually holds you back from the important work ahead of you. It can also stop you from admitting you’re addicted and need support. Learn how to get past this in a healthy way.

Face Your Fears

When we face our fears head on, we begin to wrestle with what it means to ask for help. Some of the fears you might face include:

  • Fear of rejection. If you ask for help, people can say no. It is usually the thought of summoning up courage to ask then bet turned down that is overwhelming. We don’t want to be vulnerable in spite of many resources that may exist.
  • Fear of Stigma. Perhaps it is fear of labels or being shunned, or fear of stigma that a good life we desire will never happen. Whatever it is can hold you back from embracing who you are.
  • Fear of Imperfection. At some level we all know we are not perfect. We rarely want to admit this to other people. Asking for help means having to admit we don’t have it all together. It puts imperfections at the forefront.
  • Fear of Failure. If we ask for help, it may not work. If we put ourselves out there, it might faily. We fear facing ourselves and those we asked to help us. We fear letting ourselves and others down. The problem with this line of thinking is that it ignores the definition of failure: lack of success. If we don’t get help we need, we already have failed.
  • Fear of Loss: We might be scared of what will happen if people find out the truth. We might lose friendships, family members, and fear putting too much strain on the relationship by admitting the problem and asking for help. Wrapped up in a fear of loss, we ignore one thing: we are more likely to lose everything if we don’t get help.

This huge revelation is difficult for people to grasp because it is very challenging but it is worth pushing past personal boundaries to get the help you need to succeed in life. You are not going to succeed without the help of community and friends to support you. If you admit the need for help, you can start working on your goals of being in recovery and starting life anew.

If you are struggling with addiction, let us help you. We will support your journey with resources and tools you need to succeed in recovery. Call us 24/7 at our toll-free number: 866-294-9401