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Why Does Forgiveness Matter in Recovery?

Grudges are a symptom of a deeper issue. Individuals who feel full of resentment and bitterness struggle to find joy and peace in life. In order to heal, people who feel these negative emotions need to consider forgiveness in order to move forward. Looking back will only keep an individual locked in place while forgiveness can provide momentum to look ahead to a brighter future.

What is Forgiveness

Forgiveness happens when people stop feeling resentment against others. It is about getting rid of bitterness and letting go of grudges. When people decide to forgive, they stop feeling angry and resentful about things they think have been done to harm them. No longer seeking retribution, they can focus on giving forgiveness to themselves and heal.

Deadly Sin

Lack of forgiveness can be a deadly sin in addiction recovery because it breeds resentment. Having a list of grudges will only serve to justify bad behavior. Rationalizations may sound bizarre to others, but a person with addiction will justify them. It is only when a person is able to see beyond resentment and lame excuses that true recovery can begin. Some common grudges include:

  • Failure of others to live up to their standards
  • Feeling resentful when people try to tell them what to do
  • Justifiable anger that is managed with addiction, which only adds to personal suffering
  • Feeling let down by others
  • Experiencing injustice (real or imagined)
  • Feeling manipulated
  • Loved someone who could not or did not return the feelings

Risks of Grudges

The real risks of holding a grudge are based on people feeling like others are at fault for their decisions. This justification can lead to relapse and makes recovery harder. Motivation will wane, not grow, under the weight of resentment. Emotional sobriety is not possible as long as these negative thoughts persist. Inner peace is a reward of staying sober so don’t let the chance to heal move you forward.

Self Forgiveness

A huge step in recovery is when a person is able to offer self forgiveness. Guilt can prevent people from finding comfort in sobriety. This anger is directed inward and will result in negative behaviors.  It can help to just let bygones be bygones. Humans make mistakes, including yourself. Offer yourself healing by letting go and reap the benefits for years to come.

Taking huge steps in recovery is not always possible. Sometimes it’s the small things that lead to the bigger steps. We help you take the big, and small, steps you need to recover from addiction. If you are ready to move forward and heal, call The Serenity Recovery Center. You do not want to miss out on the chance to reinvent your life in recovery. We are available 24/7 at our toll-free number: 844-339-6964. Call now.