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Who’s Really in Charge Here (Hint: You)?

Who’s Really in Charge Here (Hint: You)?

People are often discouraged by life because it feels like everything is out of their control. No matter what happens, it feels like everything is happening to you and not in your favor. It can help in early recovery to be reminded that a higher power is in charge. You can worry less about what you are going to do next or what happens if you relapse when you realize you do have control over some things, but there is also some help available, too.

Show Up, Stay Sober

Some people believe that all you have to do in recovery is show up and stay sober. It helps to consider each choice that presents itself to you and make decisions based on what is best for your sobriety. Later in recovery, when you have your feet well planted, you can start to take more control of your life and determine the direction you want to take, what you want to accomplish, and how to define yourself when your life is not all about drug and alcohol use. Here are some tips to help you take charge of your recovery and own it:

  • Figure out what it means for you to ‘be in control.’ For some, this looks like walking away when situations cause you stress without exploding. For others, this is financial security or paying off debt. It may look like choosing your work schedule or being able to travel. You get to decide what you need to feel like you are in control.
  • Accept your past. The only way forward is to acknowledge where you’ve been and the role you had in creating those experiences. No matter what, the fact is you would not be who you are without those experiences. Now you get to use them to your advantage to move forward.
  • Accept your current circumstances. You are where you are, full stop. Blame, guilt, regret, anger. None of these will change your position. Get focused and take control of your life.
  • Know your values. If you know what your priorities are, what is meaningful to you and the direction you want in life then you can stay motivated to be sober.
  • Identify areas of change. We all want to change a few things here and there about our lives but you need to be specific. Think about where you live, who your friends are, your daily routine. Figure out how to change it in a way that motivates you to grow and be better.
  • Create a plan. You may be able to make some changes, but if you are working to take control, you need a detailed path to accomplishing your goals. Make a list of what you want and pick one. Then design a program that helps you get there.
  • Check your motivation. If you know what inspires you, you can list why you want what you do and how to get there. When your attention wanders you can focus on hard work to get there.
  • Manage your emotions. Don’t let emotional responses get the best of you. We cannot control other people. Take a step back, respond how you like, but take a deep breath and focus on how to adjust and adapt.
  • Make self care a priority. Be sure to take care of you. If you don’t, you may find yourself getting anxious and stressed without knowing why. Take care of yourself so you don’t crash out.

There are many ways to take ownership of your life. You don’t want to get so caught up in worrying about living life that you forget to actually go out and live life. When all else fails, remember you have a higher power who is looking after you so check in now and again to figure out how to get help from that source, too.

Finding a way to move forward in recovery is one of the hardest things there is. Recovery is a lifestyle that you need to work on every day. If you need help and are struggling with recovery or sobriety, call us. Let us help you figure out the best next steps. Call us 24/7 at our toll-free number: 866-294-9401