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What Are Healthy Boundaries in Recovery?

What Are Healthy Boundaries in Recovery?

People with addiction issues are not used to setting boundaries, especially those that involve behaviors which have gone unchecked for years. Violating boundaries comes easily to people with addiction, mostly because alcohol and substances do the talking and open people up for embarrassing situations. Learning healthy boundaries takes time in recovery (along with relationship repair). Learn how to get started on the journey.

Why Boundaries Matter

Establishing boundaries in your life matter. By setting boundaries, you no longer allow others to take advantage of you and begin to find your voice. Your communication with others improves as you express your thoughts and feelings. Healthy boundaries leads to healthy relationships with people who have your best interests in mind. They also respect you and are willing to work with you.

Boundaries Explained

Learning healthy boundaries means understanding what boundaries are in general. The difference between healthy and unhealthy boundaries is important to building a good relationship that benefits your life and recovery. Healthy boundaries include:

  • Encouraging shared feelings and thoughts
  • Honoring personal values and beliefs
  • Respecting others
  • Taking responsibility for everything you say and do
  • Taking full ownership and responsibility for yourself

Unhealthy boundaries, on the other hand, can look a lot like:

  • Telling others how to feel
  • Sacrificing personal values, beliefs, and space to please others
  • Forcing advice or beliefs on others and pressuring them to follow advice
  • Allowing others to define you and dictate actions
  • Taking responsibility for other people’s feelings or actions

Come On, Get Healthy

When setting better, more healthy boundaries, it is important to realize your needs must be met as well as the other person’s needs. Working together to reach compromise will help you set healthy boundaries and a healthy relationship. Here’s how to start:

  • Create a personal bill of rights. The first thing you need to do is define your feelings, values, and beliefs to let the other person know how you desire to be treated. This builds empowerment.
  • Set healthy limits and state them up front. This helps others know where you stand and how far they can go. This means offering it respectfully such as not wanting to be screamed at or put down.
  • Be assertive in setting boundaries. Being assertive is walking a fine line between being aggressive and being too passive. Don’t blame others or lash out. Be clear on what doesn’t work and keep communication open.
  • Respect other people’s boundaries. Don’t forget you are the only one in a relationship. Other people’s boundaries are just as important as yours, even if they are different.

Setting boundaries requires being open and honest in communication. We can help teach you how to get there with our detox and recovery program. Whatever your individual needs are, the medical and professional staff at Serenity can help you achieve your personal goals. Call us 24/7 at our toll-free number: 866-294-9401