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How Can I Still Go to Parties and Stay Sober?

Sobriety is a process that requires a huge learning curve. You won’t get there overnight, but you can take some steps to help ensure you stay sober, even when other friends and loved ones may be having a sip of a drink or smoking. Learn some tips for how to still feel social and attend parties but keep your sobriety intact.

Make a Plan

Don’t go anywhere without a plan in your pocket. Decide in advance how you are going to see the night happening. Ask for help from a Higher Power because this will help you stay focused. Rehearse what you will say if someone asks you if you want a drink or offers drugs. If possible, go to parties that you know there will be less likelihood of encountering this (think sober parties) but always be prepared, just in case.

Bring a Friend

Think of yourself as swimming in deep waters and take a buddy with you. Take someone at the party into your confidence and tell them you are not drinking or doing anything else at the party. This can help keep you from ending up with a relapse. If you can’t bring a friend with you, arrange a text or phone call with a friend during the evening. Build in accountability wherever you can.

Curb Resentment

If you’re sure to run into someone who will say ‘do you mind if i have a drink,’ you should automatically think ‘no, I don’t mind.’ The truth is you probably do resent it and just want to be a nice guy (or gal). Take out your phone and do a quick check-in with a recovery app or mobile meeting and recovery forum. Head home if you’re triggered or find a meeting and beeline it.

Prepare to Leave

Always be prepared to dash out the door anytime you’re not comfortable. When you’ve had it up to your eyeballs, it’s time to leave. Sudden temptations, triggers, or feelings like you are overwhelmed can get to you quickly so don’t feel bad saying a quick good-bye and heading home.

Take Stock

The day after you go to an event with alcohol or drugs, you fall into self-pity mode. It may feel like ‘why can’t I just have fun,’ but don’t let those feelings and ideas simmer. Plug into recovery, be honest about your feelings and take stock of what happened. If it doesn’t feel good, don’t do it again. If you had fun and it was a great night out, consider doing it again. It may also be time to consider attending sober parties where you know you won’t be triggered as much and develop a better game plan for next time (if there is a next time).

Yes, you can have fun in sobriety, but it requires balance. You can’t do everything you used to do or go everywhere you used to go. Focus on what you want to do and how you want to get there. Stay focused on sobriety as your main goal. If you are struggling to stay sober, call us. We can help you get back on track. Call us 24/7 at our toll-free number: 844-339-6964