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On Forgiveness

Forgiveness is a state of mind that many addicts and alcoholics new in recovery have a  difficult time finding for themselves. It’s a magical word, forgiveness. It feels like a release, and really, that’s exactly what it does. When you forgive someone, you release the anger, hurt, sadness, and fear that hold you back from your true potential. Sometimes, people find it easy to forgive others, but the sticking point for addicts and alcoholics, is finding the self-love to forgive oneself. You can forgive others all day long, but until you forgive yourself, you are keeping yourself senselessly stuck in the pain and shame of your addiction.

No matter what is in your past, do not give yourself permission to sit and stew in it, day in and day out. Yes, we need to remember where our addiction has taken us and will take us if we pick up again, but we don’t need to beat ourselves up over the past. Addiction doesn’t define you as a human being. Your willingness to change and participate in life is what it means to suit up and show up. Our past mistakes are just that: past mistakes that have no bearing on who we are when we work a program of recovery.

Learning to love and forgive yourself may take time, and that’s okay. Remember to be gentle on yourself. When you catch negative self-talk, gently respond by telling yourself it is not true, and remind that voice that she or he is loved. Some of the things we tell ourselves are the most cruel and destructive conversations we will ever have. Things we would never say to someone we love, yet we tell ourselves. You truly are your best friend. This is your one soul, one mind, and one body, and above all, you should love and honor yourself just for being you. Early recovery isn’t easy, but you are so worth it. Forgiveness takes time, but if you open your heart, it will come.

The first step toward forgiveness, is asking for help. If you are struggling with addiction, call the Serenity Recovery Center. You are not alone in this. Our detox center is designed to keep you safe and as comfortable as possible. You can recover. Give us a call, we are available 24/7, toll-free at (844-339-6964). Be your own advocate, and make your life your priority. Call us today.