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It’s Better to Give a Resentment Than Get One

Resentments and secrets are the silent killers of addicts and alcoholics. In our disease, we are full of them. We resent the people, places, and things that surround us, and seem to find no fault in ourselves. We may resent family members for pushing us away, or our manager for terminating us from our jobs. What we also resent, are the people, places, and things of our past. It could be a teacher from middle school, or an old flame who rejected us ten years ago. It could be the military and the commitment we gave, or it could even be an entire city. What we learn through our work in recovery is that our resentments toward people, places, and things, is what keeps us from feeling the ultimate gift of recovery: serenity.

Everyone at one time or another has had a resentment. Some people can easily deal with them and move on, but for an addict or an alcoholic, just one resentment can paralyze us for a lifetime. It may sound petty or immature for a person to hold onto something that really only hurts them, but more often than not, we may not be aware we’re holding onto them in the first place. Treatment begins the process of dredging up old and new resentments, and teaches patients what they can do to prevent relapse and remove resentments from their lives.

To say that it’s better to give a resentment than get one is an understatement. For instance, if you don’t want to go along with something your friend is pressuring you to do, but you don’t want to hurt her feelings, it is much better to stand up for what you believe, than to go along with her and feel that knot in your stomach. It’s better to say no, and have her be angry, than to say yes and eventually drink or use over it. It takes some practice to follow your gut and what is right for you, and the longer you stay sober, the more natural it becomes.

If you are struggling with drugs or alcohol, we can help. At the Serenity Recovery Center, our state-of-the-art detox program will begin your journey into living a life free of addiction. Our treatment approach will address the underlying reasons of why you drink or use, and we will teach you how you can deal with them and move forward with your life. You are not alone in this, and we can help you begin your own healing process. Give us a call, we are available 24/7, toll-free at 844-339-6964. Recovery is possible, and your life can change. Call now.