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Don’t Take Your Past So Personally (Try This Instead)

Don’t Take Your Past So Personally (Try This Instead)

All the hurt and trauma from our childhood can come racing back when we least expect it. Don’t take it personally, it actually helps you become who you are right now. There is no way people get through life without a few sprains and hurts. Life is hard and, every so often, it feels like we can dwell on all the pain and live there. When the past hurts, it is easy to take it personally, but here are some reasons why you might want to try something else, instead.

Let Go of Defeat

The past can easily deflate our sense of self and purpose. That is, if we let it happen. We can let past traumas get the best of us if we are not careful. This is a very real tragedy: perpetuating the pain and heartache of the past, bringing on a much darker future than we deserve. We can either be defeated by the past or excel into the future. It all depends on the choices we make. There are ways to overcome ghosts of the past, with the right mindset.

Live for Now

The present is all any of us have to live for, here and now. It can be a challenge to see ourselves in the midst of it but when we become an active participant in our lives, rather than passive, we engage in the present moment. Engagement in the present moment helps us transcend the ego, the part of us that wants to hold onto the past to affirm what we think we know. Some tips:

  • Work meditation into your daily schedule
  • Try yoga or tai chi for release of negative thoughts
  • Engage with others who help you think positively and focus on the present

Release Responsibility

Even if you were harmed in the past and felt hurt, it was not your fault. It was out of your control as a child and now you are an adult, you have full control and autonomy over how you choose to live. Releasing responsibility on yourself for what happened back then is healthy and necessary to move forward. If you made choices as an adult that got you into compromising situations or caused pain, admit to it and move forward. Some tips to help:

  • Cultivate mindfulness by noticing what is triggered
  • Have a plan for how to handle those moments that trigger painful past memories
  • Start journaling to write thoughts down
  • Have conversations with friends and loved ones that help lift you up
  • Practice good self care and get some therapeutic support

Learning to cultivate a mindful space where your past trauma is not triggering negative present behavior is challenging, but possible. Your past is part of who you are, you bring it with you into everything you do. Don’t be afraid to notice it, appreciate and offer it gratitude, then release it. It may come back time and again but you can cope with it. If you struggle to deal with past trauma, seek therapeutic support from a counselor or psychiatrist.

When the past comes back to haunt you, there are ways of coping that don’t include addiction to drugs or alcohol. If you are struggling to deal with your past, we can support you with our programs and resources tailored to fit where you are right now in your journey. Whether it is drugs, alcohol, or something else, we can help you recover from addiction. Call us 24/7 at our toll-free number: 866-294-9401