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Detaching with Love

We have all experienced a situation or relationship in our lives where taking a few steps backwards was imperative for our own well-being and self-preservation. When you care deeply about someone, and you’ve invested a lot of your time into them and your relationship, it can be extremely difficult to walk away. If sticking around jeopardizes our sobriety, walk away we must.

If you’re not an addict or an alcoholic, but you love someone who is, sometimes it is in your (and their) best interest to step back, put up boundaries, and focus on yourself. If you are in recovery, you more than likely care about others who are sober, and some who are not. In a perfect world, everyone we cared about would be sober, and no one would have to experience the devastation that is addiction. Unfortunately, it isn’t a perfect world, and we have to take precautions to protect ourselves from secondhand addiction damage.

We can wish, will, or pray as much as we want for someone’s sobriety, but in reality, no matter what we do or what we want, we have zero control over other people. Addicts and alcoholics will always stay in their disease until they, and only they, have had enough. Until they are sick and tired of being sick and tired, there is nothing you can do to get or keep them sober. What you can do, is keep yourself safe and sober. Sometimes, this means detaching with love from someone who isn’t ready for sobriety.

In recovery, we don’t chase don’t addicts or alcoholics, hoping they’ll see the light and stop using and drinking. What we will do, is answer the call from someone who really wants help, and is willing to stop drinking or using. If we had set boundaries with a friend who is in the throes of the disease, and our phone rings two months later with a voice of desperation on the end of the line, we will do what we can to help. Until they are ready though, we detach ourselves, and hope for that phone call.

If you are struggling with addiction, and your loved ones have begun to detach from you, we can help. If you are desperate to feel better, and to cease being a slave to your addiction, call the Serenity Recovery Center. Our state-of-the-art detox program will help you transition into sobriety safely and comfortably. You never have to feel the way you do now, ever again. Your life can change, and you can recover. We are available 24/7, toll-free at 844-339-6964. Your new life awaits, call today.