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Why People Who Say They’re #Blessed May Do More Harm Than Good

Why People Who Say They’re #Blessed May Do More Harm Than Good

Gratitude is a beautiful thing. Taking stock and giving thanks for everything you have is a great way to experience recovery. It is essential to keeping humble and focused on the journey of recovery. There seems to be a darker side to the trend of expressing gratitude, which focuses on whether you are blessed or not, using the hashtag “blessed.” While it may seem well meaning, it can also demean the entire concept of what it means to be blessed, depending on the context.

Gratitude and Blessing

At first glance, ‘blessed’ seems like a great way to express how you feel, if that’s your thing. It is a way of saying you have been given good fortune (“I’m so blessed”), but it also brings up a tricky point of reference. When you post on social media about being ‘blessed,’ it usually comes in the context of some photo that depicts how lucky or privileged you are to experience a certain thing in that moment. In the spiritual sense, it is like implying that the hand of a higher power has reached down to give you goodness and blessing specifically in that moment. “Blessed” kind of implies that there is a reason why your life is good, not just based on talent or hard work. It is like a divine seal of approval. The flip side to being blessed then is that those who are not #blessed, may be struggling and perhaps undeserving or not good enough, at least as far as context goes.

What to Say Instead

When you put your life out on social media, people take notice, share, and like your posts. That is the whole point, but you also have a responsibility to be careful how you put your life on display. If you are in recovery, and start using #blessed to depict your life in sobriety, it might turn people away. It also might give you a sense that you are more blessed than others who may not share that same experience. Blessing is not so much a part of your recovery experience as is hard work, determination, focus, accepting the need for help, and going through all the challenges that come with recovery.

This is why it may do more harm than good to just attach a hashtag onto a word and call it good (or “blessed,” as the case may be). One word can serve as a reminder that others are not feeling that way, and it may also be triggering. While we cannot take responsibility for everyone’s feelings, there is a certain amount of respect and boundaries to be had when putting stories out there that may resonate with people. Using ‘blessed’ can create a false sense of justice in the minds of those who have benefitted from injustice. Unless you really do believe what you have been given is a gift from above, it may be best to be mindful of how you are using certain terms and also realize that you have worked hard to get where you are in recovery. You have given up a lot, lost a lot, and also gained a lot in return. Sobriety and recovery are not just about being blessed, they’re also about putting in the hard work to get (and stay) there. Take stock of what you have and realize you are worth it and don’t be afraid to share the experience with others, just check yourself to be sure your motives in how you share about it are done with the best intentions.

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