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It’s Time to Focus on Choices, Not Impulses

It’s Time to Focus on Choices, Not Impulses

When people focus on choices, not impulses, there is a tendency to think everything is within our grasp. What it truly means is that impulses do not have to define the human journey; choices do. Sometimes problems are the creation of personal choices, not necessarily impulses, which means there is a chance to make better choices and overcome some of our most innate impulses.

Rising Above

Even when people suffer abuse or trauma, there are always choices to be made about which way to go. Sometimes those are subverted by the choices others make on our behalf because no children make choices to be abused or harmed. The reality is, once people become adults, it is important to harness the power of self motivation to rise above the difficulties in life and seek help. Negative patterns of behavior do develop as a coping mechanism for life’s difficulties and instincts become all about survival. Survival instincts tell us we need to save ourselves at all costs. Self-preservations is a priority at that point, not making healthy, well-meaning choices. Maslow’s hierarchy states people should have their basest needs met before they can meet other needs on the pyramid. Base needs include:

  • Food
  • Water
  • Shelter
  • Clothing

After these base level needs are met, people can then move up the pyramid to seek things like security, employment, and eventually self-fulfillment.

Moving Forward

Self-regulation takes lots of time, healing, and support. Recovery is an option people choose for themselves when they have used drugs and alcohol to cover up abuse, trauma, neglect, and many other harms. It takes a type of reprogramming of the mind and body to re-align with oneself and start to get on the right track. Learning and unlearning go much deeper than ‘not using drugs or alcohol.’ When the choice is made to hold oneself accountable for personal choices, it requires fighting against survivalist instincts and reflexes. To quiet down one’s life is to find a way to stop doing what is happening at the moment that isn’t serving basic or long-term needs and setting oneself free. Being honest with oneself and taking account of personal behaviors and choices can help bring self reflection to a point where a person can finally look in the mirror and acknowledge there is a better, different way. That better, different way, requires personal choices to be activated above reflexes. It does not mean the battle will not still wager on in a person’s mind or body, it simply means being more in control of the impulses that drive negative behavior (such as addiction) and starting to align with positive behavior which can help drive transformation, growth, and healing.

If you are ready to stop being a victim to your circumstances and take personal accountability for your choices, call us. Addiction is not an experience you should fight alone. Serenity is here to come alongside you as you make the journey through detox, recovery, and beyond. Call us to find out how we can help set you up for success in recovery. Call us 24/7 at our toll-free number: 844-339-6964