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How Do I Let Go of Resentments and Enjoy My (Sober) Summer?

How Do I Let Go of Resentments and Enjoy My (Sober) Summer?

Summer is quickly approaching and winter is finally waning. With warmer weather come family vacations, summer holidays, and the chance for making happy memories. Sometimes this also leads to failed expectations. Resentments can build and really ruin any chance of fun you hoped to have. Maybe you dreamed of having fun, but now that seems in danger of going by the wayside. Find some tips for how to enjoy your sober summer and not let resentments ruin all the fun.

Measuring Up

When vacations don’t live up to expectations, you might feel resentful. You may resent other people for not helping you build happier memories on family vacations. What you don’t realize is that you are only hurting yourself by holding onto the pain of times long lost. Building up unrealistic expectations will only set you up for failure. It doesn’t help that you are expecting others to behave themselves when you know full well they have their own issues of addiction, trauma, and pain they bring to the table. Sometimes it is better to focus on letting go of those issues than try to fix, change, or be resentful of them.

Letting Go

What is best to do instead of building up resentments is to set up boundaries. From the get-go, people will try to tell you what to do or how to be. What you have to decide is how you want to approach life. If you need help, then ask for it. If you don’t want to be involved with people because they are not good for you, don’t do it. Learning to let go is learning to ask for what you need and leave the rest alone. Resentment builds when you have expectations that go unfulfilled because people don’t even know you have them, much less how to fill them for you.

Moving Forward

When you are ready to let yourself drop unrealistic expectations, you can move forward in life and with sobriety. Not letting resentments ruin your summer includes:

  • Building sober friendships
  • Not visiting old haunts expected different feelings or experiences
  • Developing goals to keep yourself sober
  • Finding sober accountability groups and partners
  • Meet regularly with a counselor who will keep the resentments in check

The biggest way to release resentments is to have healthy boundaries and stay focused on why you are sober. When you know why you want to stay sober, you are more likely to remember this no matter what happens this summer.

Staying sober is the main focus of recovery, but it is not always possible. Relapse can happen following stressful experiences or situations. If you are struggling with sobriety going into summer, call us. We will help you regain focus on what matters to you in recovery. Call us 24/7 at our toll-free number: 866-294-9401